“The spiritual alchemist seeks to transform common and unwanted circumstances into more noble ones.”
I was talking to a couple of youth members yesterday at the gym.
We spoke about a common thing for many of us - being fatherless.
Sadly, I wasn't surprised to hear that all three of them had no fathers in their lives and - if they did, they weren't good men.
I wanted to instill some sort of hope in their lives.
I shared with them that even though I had a biological dad, I didn't have a father either.
Some of us don't have role models, but "anti-models."
Philosopher Nassim Taleb refers to anti-models as ‘people we don’t want to resemble when we grow up.’
They had seen the gym grow for many years.
I told them that I used the lack of fatherhood in my life as fuel and an advantage.
I became the father I always needed -
The business woman I needed to be.
I turned the pain into greatness - into beauty - into power.
I think this is true for any loss, any wrong, any betrayal -
You have to transcend - become. Use it.
It may just bring about the best things if you allow it to.
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”
- Mary Oliver
“Spiritual Alchemy is the act of inner transformation.” - Rev. Marilyn Ridley